People bring this problem to me regularly. Recently a mother of two small children called me. She said that her husband walked out and filed for divorce after she objected to his decision to get the … [Read more...] about What Happens in a Marriage When Partners Make Unilateral Decisions Which Affect The Spouse?
How Do You Know When It’s Time to Get Marriage Counseling and Who Do You Pick?
You are fighting all the time and you don't stop. Your partner is lying and you know it but the lying continues. You are living with alcohol and/or drug abuse or violence. You make requests that go … [Read more...] about How Do You Know When It’s Time to Get Marriage Counseling and Who Do You Pick?
If My Partner Cheats On Me Does That Mean I Failed In The Marriage?
To begin with, love and cheating have nothing to do with each other. Foolish men who don't feel good enough and angry women do it. Dr. Frank Pittman, in his book, Private Lies says, "infidelity is … [Read more...] about If My Partner Cheats On Me Does That Mean I Failed In The Marriage?
Can You Ever Trust A Cheater Again?
It depends my clients ask me this all the time. There are different kinds of affairs. Some people are philanderers. Male philanderers have a better prognosis than female philanderers. Men cheat when … [Read more...] about Can You Ever Trust A Cheater Again?
Can a Marriage Go Back To Normal After Cheating?
My experience is that even though infidelity is Not the fault of the partner, once the infidelity is discovered and the secrets exposed, couples progress to dealing with making the marriage far better … [Read more...] about Can a Marriage Go Back To Normal After Cheating?
Do You Really Love Someone If You Cheat On Them?
Love and infidelity have nothing to do with each other. Men cheat when they don't feel good enough. Women cheat when they are angry. Infidelity has NOTHING to do with the partner. It is the … [Read more...] about Do You Really Love Someone If You Cheat On Them?
What Are The Odds Of A Marriage Surviving Infidelity?
My practice is probably 60% about people recovering from infidelity. No one is getting divorced. Prospective clients ask me this question all the time. I answer, "it depends." Infidelity … [Read more...] about What Are The Odds Of A Marriage Surviving Infidelity?
Can I Be Happy if I just do what I Feel Like Doing?
I see people all the time who tell me they aren't happy. This is even more prevalent since all the confinement due to the virus. People are unhappy with their marriages. They are married to partners … [Read more...] about Can I Be Happy if I just do what I Feel Like Doing?
How To Fix Intimacy Problems in a Marriage
To answer a question like this that is frequently posed to me we first must understand the reason(s) for lack of intimacy. Esther Perel describes intimacy as "in to me see." It is the ability and … [Read more...] about How To Fix Intimacy Problems in a Marriage
How Do I Connect With An Emotionally Absent Spouse?
This was the question that my latest new client posed. Elizabeth explained that she had had enough. The straw that broke the camel's back ( not really such a straw) occurred when her mom became … [Read more...] about How Do I Connect With An Emotionally Absent Spouse?
